Do You Understand What He or She Is Saying?

To Get Your Ex Back, Understand the Dynamics of the Male-Female Relationship
　
As long as there have been people, there has been a real need for them to understand each other. The exchange that takes place between men and women is powered by fundamental differences in the make-up of the individuals and in the way that men and women view the world and each other. Understanding the male-female relationship may be one of the keys.
　
First, look at the way men and women approach communications:
Women are emotional communicators - understanding what women mean is best done in light of understanding the feelings and emotions related to a situation. At the end of the day, women often need to process the day's activities and open them up. This means they need to describe not only the facts about the day's events, but also examine and evaluate them in light of the total experience. If a man does not understand and respect this need to process, he often comes across as uncaring or unconcerned.

Second, look at the problem-solving part of the male-female dynamic:
Men are process oriented - they need to solve problems. Oftentimes, women are explaining the day's events, and the man drifts off in a solution mode rather than continuing to listen. He sees a solution, wants to state it, and then move on. This is a task-oriented approach, and may seem cold and unfeeling to the female. Sometimes, men even offer solutions when there is no solution sought - the woman just wanted to process the situation.

Men and women undestanding the communications dynamic and the problem-solving dynamic is a good start to understanding how to restore a relationship or to get your ex back.